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About Conscious Relationship Coaching 

The below describes the nature of what can occur in a therapeutic coaching relationship with me. These are suggested phases that can occur simultaneously. We also tailor the coaching to suit your specific needs and goals as a couple.

Who is it for? 

Conscious Relationship coaching can be for you as an individual or to improve any relationship by first & foremost ‘evolving you’. Then taking this inner evolving into the relationship with the other

“When we evolve our inner self our outer world & outer relationships evolves with it” 

Phase 1– Past Patterns & Healing the Inner Child

• Breaking and healing past generational patterns- I will read the patterns for you and help you identify them with ease and link them to how they may be effecting your relationship with your partner.
• Look at how these patterns and  inner child wounds are affecting the present day with our partners.
• Patterns repeat in our relationships, so we recognise the root pattern that may be negatively impacting your present day relationship, then plan ways to break the pattern.
• Reparenting the inner child helps to make sure we are having a relationship from our adult self vs the child self.
• Recognising past belief systems and updating outdated belief systems so this positively impacts our relationship.
• The roles we play and why. Releasing any unhelpful roles from our root family that impacts how we relate to our partner.
• Re-evaluating expectations of self and others. A lot of our issues with our romantic partners comes from misplaced, miscommunicated or unrealistic expectations.
• When we work with our expectations we see some are not coming from the adult self but rather from an unmet need of our inner child part.  So we meet some of these expectations within the inner self through inner chid work, as well as re-evaluate the expectation of the other. This can significantly ease stress in the relationship.
• Taking responsibility for the co-creation in the relationship dynamic to empower us in change. As the saying goes ‘ it takes two to tango’  we co-create the patterns for our relationship.
• Owning your co-creation can free us from a resentful mindset and create the foundation for change vs blame.

In this phase we dip in and heal this past part, so you can enjoy life in the present free of these patterns. We do not spend hours talking about the past!

Phase 2– Living in the Now: Develop Presence and Tools to Regulate

• Mindfulness. Often we react to our partner from a wound or role in our root family. If needed we help you to become more grounded in the now so you can relate to your partner from the present day.
• We cultivate more presence and aim to have you working towards embracing your relationship from the authentic adult self vs the past self.
• We continually build the compacity for you to relationship from the conscious adult self vs from the inner child part or your protective ego.

Phase 3– Connection, Compassion and Reconnection to our selves then our partner 

• We explore how to reconnect to ourselves and invite more connection in our relationships.
• If we have stopped communicating or connecting with our partner we rebuild rituals for communication and connection.
• We use ‘Imago conversation structures’ to get you on the same page in your communication and give you a structure to follow so both partners feel heard, understood and validated.
• We may have entered into unhealthy communication with our partner rooted in defence, blame, criticism, contempt or stone walling. We use Gottman inspired strategies to help us move out of this type of communication and enter into more respectful and loving communication.
• Do you still know your partner? sometimes after having children perhaps or just after some time we may have forgotten who our partner is to find out what they love, value and care about all over again can bring about a new & exciting foundation to build from.

Please reach out to book a connection call or messenger me to discuss your personal requirements further.